Just Jill is the creation of Jill Cohen Morris. Jill is an avid rambler and married mother of two from Toronto, Canada, with a remarkable zest for life and a fabulous sense of humor.
Dear Just Jill,
Help! I'm about to cross the line from friendship to romance and I am freaking out!!
I’m in my late fifties, divorced for two years and nothing romantic or sexual for almost ten years. Enough said.
I’m a mess … forget about sex, let’s talk basics …kissing… I am not sure if I even remember how to kiss?? What if I break out in nervous laughter?
I really really like this man. We have spoken on the phone, gone for walks, coffee, and have been out for dinner twice. Now he wants to make me dinner.
Where is my confidence? Why am I so nervous? I need advice from my wise Sole Sisters. How do I calm down? How do I enjoy the moment and stop overthinking?
What’s a gal to do?
Sincerely,
Panicked Pearl
Sole Sister Advice & Comments
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Just lean in and go for it, laughter is fine and fun. Enjoy! You have much more restraint than me.
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He’s likely more panicked and more nervous than you. Imagine him writing in his journal how he feels like a school boy asking a girl out he REALLY likes. Show a middle aged man a middle aged woman he likes and I’d be prepared to bet real money he sees the beauty and not the ‘faults’ that women have been trained to focus on.
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I have been in your shoes! It’s like riding a bicycle but more fun!
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I’d be a wreck I’m sure.Vulnerability is courage. Be brave. Be bold. Be you.
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Relax. Maybe do something beforehand to take your mind off of it.
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What an exciting adventure for both of you! It is ok to giggle nervously and it’s ok to let him know how you are feeling (in fact I recommend it). I did the same thing a few years ago and it was the best thing I ever did. Enjoy yourself and let everything unfold naturally
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I’ve been in these exact same shoes, same same timeline. Try to relax. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings . And the other thing, my girlfriend asked me and I’ll go ahead and answer it is yes they expected to be completely shaved down there lol.
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If he is really into you, nothing you say or do or wear or whatever will bother him. It’s only when we are looking for a way out that we find faults. You are perfect just as you are for the right person!
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On our first date my now fiancé (69 and a widower) said to me (68 divorcee) ‘You’ve got to realise I’ve got no idea what I’m doing’. It really endeared him to me as I didn’t either!
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