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Dear Just Jill,
Lately, I have been crying at the drop of a hat, and when I say crying, I mean full-on tears. Over what? Honestly, nothing that truly matters … the other day, I was making pasta, and the pot boiled over … out came the tears. And don’t get me started on a commercial or a puppy!!
I’m not sad. I’m not depressed. I am emotional!! Is it just me, or is this some midlife rite of passage that no one has warned me about? Is this menopause? Hormones gone rogue? Am I simply softening up as I get older?
What bothers me most is that I don’t know what to do about it. I have always prided myself on being pretty even-keeled, so this new tendency to cry at the slightest thing is unfamiliar territory. Any Sole Sisters experience this? Please help me make sense of this new emotional rollercoaster!
What’s a gal to do?
Sincerely,
Crying Chrissy
Sole Sister Advice & Comments
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I am in the same boat. I can cry at anything these days. I am an emotional person by nature. But this is a bit much. I hear a song, watch a TV commercial, or watch a video on Facebook, and the waterworks begin.
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go with the flow. This, too, shall pass.
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Hormones!!! Enjoy the release.
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This happened to me when I was in my 30’s. I finally went to my doctor and was diagnosed with depression. I had no idea. Maybe check in with your doctor?
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I'm guessing hormones. I cry over shows more than I used to. If you feel out of control, perhaps see your doctor; maybe hormone therapy can help even things out. If you're generally a happy person, then I don't think it's depression. When I had depression, I felt no joy over things that I should have felt joy for; I was sad all the time for no reason. At best, I felt nothing. But I'm no doctor, nor am I an expert. So, if you're concerned, I'd say seek help. I hope you start feeling more like you again.
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Proud of you. The world is bananas now. You have managed to stay tender and open to it. Keep up the good work!
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I’ve been there. Medical: hormones, thyroid, depression. Emotional: express yourself through talk, art, running, swimming. For me, it was a sign that I needed to make a change. Could be other medical reasons, menopause/ hormones. Get your B’s checked ( B12, etc. ); low levels can cause an emotional roller coaster. l also increased my exercise/ walks, and healthier diets can help. A good old cry is good once in a while.
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Check in with a doctor. There are many possible causes. Your best bet is a good doctor who listens carefully and can conduct a thorough investigation. Good luck. Hugs from another Cryer.
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With all the depressing news we are bombarded with every day and how much hate is expressed constantly, how can you not be depressed? I have no solutions.
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Crying is probably better than irrational anger…
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I used to cry whenever I'd hear an emotional song. I'm on an SSRI for anxiety/depression, and I hardly ever cry now. It kind of dulls the emotions for better or worse...
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Tears are all the goodness and love inside us that leaks out. I worry about the ones who don't cry. Sometimes, it's the beauty of things, like children playing or a dog chasing a ball. Other times, it's the sadness of things, like saying goodbye. This world is filled with beauty and sadness. Cry away, my friend, but if it gets too much and interferes with your daily life, see your doctor.
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I think there’s a lot to be said for all the comments about the sad state of the world affecting you. I will also say that perimenopause affected me in just the way you describe it, and a doctor confirmed that crying easily and often was one of the common symptoms of perimenopause and menopause.
- Crying is amazing and freeing, and our eyes sparkle and look fabulous after we cry. When people say, "I never cry," I get worried and stand back. It is our biological release valve. Cry as long or as much as you want.
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